Women’s equality is an extensive subject in itself, I do not wish to whittle on about how the suffragette movement of the 19th and 20th century won the vote for women. Or, how specific individuals managed to gain the custody of their children, or how specific individuals told their son-of-a-bitch husbands to do one. Aka, what I would consider to be real feminism. Instead I want to focus on contemporary feminism and why it’s such a pain in the arse.
I recently appeared on my University’s radio show to talk about the problems with modern feminism, and I warn you, if you are a prolific feminist you should probably stop reading now. This blog post WILL rattle your cage. Not that I’m not accustomed to getting stony looks from feminists, or comments to the contrary of what I believe in. I once had quite a debate on a WordPress blog’s comment section about maternity pay, but that is a different subject for another time.
The bottom line is, Feminism in the Western world has become, more or less, petty selfishness. This is not to say, that I don’t think Feminists are trying to make a positive difference, they are. But I feel more and more, those efforts could be put to better use. Women do have equal rights in Britain, and the US. They are not treated as second class citizens. Of course, on some rare occasions there will be exceptions to this, but I think as equality goes, women have a pretty good foot in the door in the Western World.
Campaigns such as 50:50 parliament and ‘No More Page 3’ are not a good representation of what equality of the sexes should be. In fact, in some respects, these campaigns actually cause more of a divide between the sexes, than they do to unify them.
I have already written an extensive blog post as to why I don’t agree with Page 3 being scrapped, which you can read here. However, in light of recent events I’d like to add to my reasoning. Firstly, ‘No More Page 3’ is very hypocritical of some other campaigns such as ‘Free the Nipple.’ Moreover, with causes such as Coppafeel! taking the spotlight, I really do think, (and I don’t think I’m alone here), breasts should be CELEBRATED. People shouldn’t be so squeamish anymore, they’re just a pair of tits, get over it.
Feminists claim they want women to have more freedom of choice and more opportunities. Well I’m sorry, but saying Page 3 should be banned from the Sun, is taking away opportunity and freedom of choice. It boils down to crudeness at the end of the day. I hear the phrase time and time again, “Page 3 makes women look like sexual objects.” No it doesn’t. It’s allowing women to express their sexuality in a positive way.
What really concerns me is that women don’t want to try to improve the image of women, where the image of women needs to be improved most. Porn is still a subject which sends shock waves down people’s spines, but in some respects, I think Porn needs to come out of the shadows and be more accepted. If Porn wasn’t so taboo, women wouldn’t be seen as sexual objects, they’d be seen as equals who’s needs are just as important as those of men.
The 50:50 campaign is another similar case, it claims it’s just trying to promote women into Politics and into Parliament, but actually, calling it the “50:50 Campaign” is a bit misleading. That title suggests to me that they think Parliament should be made 50:50 regardless. An MP shouldn’t be elected because they have a penis or a vagina. They should be elected on policy, skill and talent. I’m not saying the 50:50 campaign is taking away opportunity from men, but on the other hand, I think there is a very fine line between wanting an equal opportunity in Politics, and thinking female MPs would be better than male MPs. At the moment, for me personally, 50:50 is on that line.
Another two subjects I’ve been asked questions about are; whether I think there is a “rape culture” in Britain, and do I agree with the abolishment of the Tampon Tax? The answer to these two questions is quite simply a no.
Firstly, I dislike the term “rape culture.” When I hear rape culture, that suggests to me a society where it is okay in law and in social normality, to rape a woman. That is not the case in Britain. Moreover, a woman DOES have a responsibility to keep herself safe. If I was to drink myself to excess, fall down a flight of stairs and break my neck. I would be considered partly to blame. If I was to drink myself to excess, go home with someone I didn’t know and get raped by them, I would consider that to be partly my own fault. That is not to say I think it justifies the actions of my attacker by any means, BUT, I do think that women should have more sense than to drink that amount of alcohol or trust a stranger.
There are always going to be dangerous people in the world, and to think that there will come a time when there aren’t is just naivety. Consent needs to be taught, yes, but so does keeping yourself and your friends safe.
(I appreciate that these events I have outlined are not the norm for all rape cases.)
Secondly, the Tampon Tax is an interesting one. I find myself agreeing and disagreeing, but mostly I disagree. This is mainly because I think it’s petty and it’s selfish. The Tampon Tax is the lowest it can be, and yes they are for a bodily function which women cannot help. But, they’re also made by private companies who want to make a profit, and all women like nice sanitary products don’t they? You pay tax on mostly everything anyway so paying 50p extra for a box of tampons is hardly going to break the bank. Some people don’t have enough to eat or clean water to drink, and you’re moaning because you have to pay a little bit extra for Always’ Night Towels. I mean please, give me a break.
No great woman in history ever got anywhere by sitting around moaning about things in her life that were ‘unfair’ because she was a woman. They got up, they pushed through barriers, they didn’t listen to men telling them what they could and couldn’t do, and they got on with it and made something of themselves. Men have just as many barriers as women do I assure you, men can be discriminated against, men can be abused, men can be raped and they can be shut down.
Feminism makes women look weaker when it doesn’t need to.
You want to make a difference?
Get up, get on with it and don’t disrespect other women for being professional Booby Queens.