The Power of Make-Up

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I have never considered myself to be a vain person. I don’t take hours to get ready or feel the need to look absolutely perfect. I learnt pretty quickly that the women you see on the front of Vogue or in glossy fashion adverts are not ‘real’ women. They are tweaked women, women who have been airbrushed into perfection. The Kardashians are a prime example and I hate the fact girls seem to have this fascination with Kylie Jenner on Instagram. She’s nothing special, she’s just a girl who’s had plastic surgery to become what she believes is the perfect ideal, both facially and physically. I’m not criticising her choice to do that, hell, with her financial allowance I would expect it, but I do think that it’s putting false expectations on young women to look a certain way. Unless you have millions, or impeccable genes, you are never going to look like Kylie Jenner. That’s the cold hard truth any normal woman has to deal with.

Make-up is an avenue in which women, and men, can improve their appearance less permanently and at a much cheaper price. Personally, it boosts my confidence, allows me a flow of creativity every morning and quenches the retail thirst I get every time I walk into Debenhams. I spend a ridiculous amount of money on make-up, hundreds every year in fact, but it’s something I feel benefits me. I have very sensitive skin too, so cheap make-up products are a no go. I once tried a Rimmel London Foundation which I can only describe as sulphuric acid, it literally nearly burnt my skin off. (Kate Moss you have my utmost respect). Plus, the more you pay the better the make-up is in my opinion, sometimes there are those rare gems but usually I’d choose a high-end product over a drugstore one any day. I’m a snob when it comes to make-up….and champagne, those are the only things I’m snobby about, PLEASE you have to believe me. Oh and food…ok I’m an undercover middle-class capitalist, there I said it.

My history with make-up is a pretty bog standard one. Whilst I was at secondary school I literally never wore make-up. I didn’t see the point. I tried to occasionally alleviate the incredible peer pressure I felt to wear make-up, once coming into school resembling a clementine on a cocktail stick. But as time went on, I began more and more to ignore the pressure. I was always seen as an individual, even at primary school, (the ‘weird’ kid nobody liked etc). As I got older, however, I learnt that it was okay to be different from other people. I only began to wear make-up in college and then gradually progressed into wearing it every day. Now, I wouldn’t say I wear it to conform, I’m just genuinely more interested in the cosmetic industry, find putting on make-up rather enjoyable and if anything it makes me feel better about my appearance. Ultimately, I do it for me.

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The moral of the story is never do anything to your appearance for anyone apart from yourself. Life’s too short. I see girls posting selfies on Instagram every week, sometimes every day and I think; who are you actually doing this for? Granted everyone loves to be complimented, loves to have likes on their pictures but don’t make it part of your weekly routine. Women should have enough confidence to look in the mirror and think ‘damn girl you are looking fine today’ without needing to get confirmation on social media. Period. Oh and that includes Kylie fucking Jenner.

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Summer Favourites!

Hi everyone,

This time I’m going to be talking about a variety of things I’ve been growing rather fond of over the summer. These aren’t just beauty picks but some fashion and foodie stuff too, even a book. I’ve loved getting these bits together to show you so I hope you enjoy reading this post! Don’t forget to follow 🙂

1.) Teapigs – Morning Glory Everyday Brew.Processed with VSCO with 4 preset

I’ve never been a huge fan of what I would call ‘posh tea.’ (Posh tea being green tea, chai tea, this tea is going to save your life tea etc). However, when I came across Teapigs ‘Everyday Brew’ I got super excited. Basically, I hate any tea that you can’t put milk and sugar in to make it taste….better. This tea tastes really good though and I have been trying to drink it without any naughty extras. The teabags are biodegradable and fair-trade, so the tea is good for the planet too! Everyday Brew comes in packs of 50 teabags and usually these are priced at around £10. This may seem expensive, (50p per teabag), but you can always use them as a treat and to be honest I’m still going with my first pack after a month. If you are a fan of what I would consider to be ‘posh tea,’ Teapigs do plenty of them including your bog-standard green tea, popcorn tea and even chilli chai tea. #Sofuckinghipster. You can check them out here.

2.) Book of the Month – Tell No One by Harlan Coben.Processed with VSCO with 4 preset

Since finishing university I’ve stuck my teeth into reading again and ploughed through 4 books already. I’m a huge fan of crime/mystery/thrillers and my favourite book so far has been Tell No One by Harlan Coben. I was introduced to Coben by a family friend and since reading this book I have rambled on about it to everyone only to find that my Aunt is a huge fan of his too. The book follows the story of Dr. David Beck who’s wife was murdered 8 years previously. Beck starts getting strange emails which allude that his wife is still alive and thus he begins to investigate. I think the reason I enjoyed this book so much is because I appreciated how clever Coben is as an author. Nothing within this particular story is too graphic or scary and Coben adds a lot of humour to give you a giggle when you feel you need one. As a result, the novel can appeal to a lot of different audiences. Similarly, Coben ties all the loose ends together so you feel as you get a proper closure to the story, rather than him trying to do the ‘edgy’ by forcing you to form your own conclusions. As this story is a one off and not part of a series, I would recommend Tell No One to literally anyone. Coben is amazeballs.

3.) Chanel – Chance Eau Tendre Perfume.Processed with VSCO with 4 preset

This Chanel perfume is an old favourite. I’ve been wearing this fragrance every summer for about 3 years and still love it. Chanel do a few variations of their classic perfume Chance but the Eau Tendre just appealed to me the most. It has a lovely fresh scent that reminds me of apples. (I’m not going to go all Bloomingdales on you but please bear with). It is also very light and feminine which is perfect for the spring/summer. When it comes to perfumes, I definitely think you get what you pay for. All Chanel perfumes are literally exquisite and stay on my skin for ages. Thankfully my Mum works for Boots so I get discount but perfumes make great birthday and Christmas presents too. If you’ve never tried a Chanel perfume I would definitely urge you to treat yourself and get one.

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I needed a new pair of black sandals ever since the strap on my old ones broke after a strenuous day at Thorpe Park. My cousin wore a pair of black Birkenstocks to my birthday meal and I instantly fell in love with them. I usually hate buying the same things as other people, (Birkenstocks are all the rage this summer), but they are so comfortable and easy to wear I was converted into buying myself a pair. Despite the cork style sole I’ve found that surprisingly, they go with most outfits. They’re not for everyone, for one thing they are quite hard and despite looking wide, the indents for your foot make them more suited to narrow feet. However, there are loads of different styles and colours to choose from so there’s definitely something for everyone. You can check out the Birkenstocks website here.

What products have you been enjoying this summer? Stay tuned for more monthly favourites.

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Beauty Picks for May! 

Intro

Around three years ago, I used to make YouTube videos reviewing fashion and beauty products. It was an interesting and fun hobby one that gave me a lot of fulfilment, but once I got to university I packed the whole thing up. I simply did not have the time, nor the funds, to carry on with it. Unfortunately, now I do have the time for it, the YouTube beauty blogger community is just not what it was. Last month I watched Samantha Maria, or ‘Beautycrush’ as she was once known as, unbox a Gucci handbag worth £1,500 that she then proclaimed she was going to take to Coachella. I mean how horribly pompous is that? I want the old, more practical and modest Sammi back please.

Anyway, apart from the fact that YouTube has gone to complete pot, (Sianshutterbug deactivated her channel too, pretty much for the same reasons I’ve just outlined), I actually miss it. So instead, I came up with an ingenious idea, why not just write a few monthly picks when you can be bothered and show off a few outfits every once in a while? Well that’s exactly what I’m going to do. The politics and the satire will be staying too though, don’t you worry.


Picks

1.) Real Techniques Miracle Sponge.image3

For those of you who don’t know, Real Techniques is a make-up brush company owned by Sam and Nic Chapman, who are both beauty Youtubers ironically enough.

I use a lot of their brushes but this ‘Miracle Sponge’ has topped them all. Firstly, it gives your foundation a lovely even finish which is great for people like me who prefer a more natural look. However, it also caters to people who prefer a fuller coverage by allowing you to buff or ‘press’ foundation into your skin. The two ends are perfect for blending concealer, the point for blemishes and the curve for under your eyes. I really do love this product because it allows me to get just the right consistency of coverage that I want, leaves a smooth and even finish and is suitable for everyone.

2.) Estée Lauder Double Wear Stay-In Place Lip Pencil in ‘Pink.’image1.JPG

I’ve only just recently discovered lip liners. Before, I literally couldn’t be arsed with the hassle of putting on lip-liner and then lipstick. I had horrible visions of that 90s look where Madonna’s lip liner was a completely different colour to her lipstick.

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Estée Lauder have had me converted and I am now preaching their gospel. Don’t get me wrong, applying lip-liner takes a lot of practise. The first couple of tries will probably have your mouth looking slightly wonky. But its so worth it! Long-lasting lipstick and more lip definition are the two benefits I have noticed the most.

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The only thing I would say however is I’m not entirely sure this particular Estée Lauder lip liner is worth the money. Whilst you do get a cute brush on the end and a metal cover on the end of the pencil, the brush is hard and the pencil needs sharpening regularly. Therefore, whilst I love the colour, the matte finish and the result, the packaging is not ideal and you could probably get the exact same quality from cheaper brands such as Mac or No.7 at Boots.

3.) No.7 Velvet Lash Mascara.

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Have I ever told you that I completely adore drug-store mascaras? Personally, I think most high-end mascaras are pretty crappy. Especially Benefit’s which feel as if someones secretly super-glued your eyelids together every time you come to wash them off in the shower.

If you’re someone like me who has naturally long lashes and just wants extra volume this is perfect. The formula isn’t too wet like some mascaras I’ve used, even to begin with and the brush is fairly big which is great for both length and volume. Of course, it is harder to define your lashes with a brush like this, image3 2but
honestly this has never bothered me. Frankly, anyone who says that you can define every lash perfectly with a certain mascara is either lying or has too much time on their hands in the mornings. Also, who the hell pays that much attention to your eyelashes anyway? I for one, do not inspect my friends eyelashes every time I see them.

 

4.) Charlotte Tilbury’s ‘Filmstar Bronze and Glow’ in Light to Medium.

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I could literally sing from the rooftops about how amazing this product is, seriously, you need to buy this. I understand that contouring is not for everyone, it’s a lot of aggravation, takes a lot of practise and sometimes the end results can be, let’s just say, less than desirable. But you are talking to the converted here and contouring really does help improve how defined your bone structure looks.

Some people choose to buy a bronzer and a highlighter separately which is fair enough, others choose to buy sets. This particular contour kit from Charlotte Tilbury has a ‘sculpt’ side and a ‘highlight’ side, both of which are powders. I’m not too keen on cream contour palettes, they’re messy, there’s aimage1 2 lot of blending involved and they don’t give the most natural finish. Whereas with this, you literally sculpt with powder and then put the highlighter on and you’re good to go in a matter of minutes. The colours aren’t too dark/bright either, which means you get a natural definition and a healthy glow. This is rather than, your cheekbones looking like an alien spacecraft signal every time someone walks past you.

The packaging is absolutely beautiful too, all metal with a gold finish and that big mirror which is pretty darn useful, what is not to love? However please do be careful with Charlotte Tilbury products. They are ridiculously expensive and some of them are not worth the money at all! For example, her concealer pen and eyebrow pencil are nothing special and there are lots of affordable low-end dupes you can buy.

I hope you enjoyed these mini-reviews, please let me know if you’d like to see more beauty/fashion posts! Also, as you can see, I’ve had some more tattoos done so an update will be posted soon 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tattoos: Personal Experiences and Advice.

Over the course of the past year and a half, I have had 4 tattoos, (soon to be 5), inked onto my left arm. In some respects I regard this change in my appearance to be massive turning point in the way I view myself. All of them have a genuine meaning which I hold very dear to me, and I’ve always said that once completed my sleeve will be “my soul on my arm.” Poetic yet justified in my opinion.

I appreciate that some people dislike tattoos, or feel that getting ink injected into your skin for aesthetic reasons isn’t justified. I once got told that tattoos are nothing but “fashion items” which frankly in most cases, is a load of bullshit. The fact of the matter is I wanted to write this blog post as a guidance to people who are thinking about getting a tattoo, or are just generally interested in the subject of my own.

Here are my 4 tattoos, all done by the incredible Rebecca Vincent:

1.) Indian Elephant.

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I lost both my Grandad and my Nanny in 2011, within a few months of one another. It was important to me to have a first tattoo as something to remember them by. However I didn’t want something that was morbid, or very over the top in its connotations. My Grandad was born and grew up in India, as his father was part of the British Army there, whilst my Nanny loved elephants. Hence the Indian Elephant. They also have the same initials but backwards, R.K and K.R, and so I decided to have these put in the corners of the blanket (as seen above).

2.) Flowers and a bumble bee.

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My flowers are all my Granny’s favourites: Lilies, Pansies and Lavender. The bumblebee is for my Mum as she once said, if she were ever to get a tattoo she would get a bumblebee. The bee also tied in very nicely with the flowers, as symbolism for mother and daughter. All 3 generations of us in fact.

3.) Ammonite.

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My ammonite is probably what I would consider to be my “impulse” tattoo. That’s not to say I didn’t think about it carefully, I saw Vincent had done them before and really liked them. I’m also a massive history buff, (it’s what I want to spend my life doing), so having a natural object which represents history to me just shows another aspect of personality.

I’m really happy with the way all my tattoos have turned out, and plan on filling up my arm with individual tattoos as a sleeve (not to be filled in).

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Advice for those considering getting a tattoo:

  • Do your research into styles, tattoo artists, locations and costs.

I cannot stress enough how important this is.

Before I had my first tattoo, I spent months trailing through Instagram trying to find my perfect tattoo artist. Fortunately I found her, but I think there’s several things everyone must consider when trying to find theirs.

Firstly find a style that YOU like and think would suit YOU. Regardless of what anyone else thinks, at the end of the day this art is going to be on you forever. Personally, I decided straight away that colour tattoos weren’t for me, so went out on a search for black and white artists. Over time the basis grew thinner, and I was left with predominantly female artists who use a lot of dot work and line work, as well as your bog standard shading. Additionally, although most tattoo artists will probably make out they could draw up anything your heart desired, those who have tattooed subject matters similar to what you have in mind, are probably the best port of call. (Especially for your first tattoo). For example, Vincent had tattooed elephants before.

Secondly, go with a tattoo artist who is close to home but don’t be afraid to travel for quality. Vincent is an hour and a half train ride away from my hometown, and a 45 minute tube ride away from my uni digs. All in all it would cost me between £5-20 to get to her, which in my opinion is justified considering how fucking awesome she is. However it is all down to personal preference, and if you want to travel for 3 hours on a train or fly across the pond to get inked by a tattoo artist you think is incredible, so be it. I sure as hell know it’ll be worth it.

Moreover, just a quick word of warning. There’s only so much detail a tattoo artist is physically capable of putting into a design, especially if a piece is going to be small. Tumblr and Pin Interest are literally a tattoo artists worst nightmare. Do not go to a tattoo artist with a photograph of a tattoo someone else has. It’s much nicer that they design something that’s personal to you. At the same time, don’t be afraid to tell them that you don’t like what they’ve designed. It takes them a matter of minutes to draw up another template that you can brain storm, and come up with something that you both agree on. It should be a top priority of the tattoo artist you go to, that you are getting something you love and want on your body. If it isn’t, then that tattoo artist isn’t professional and you should probably abandon the appointment altogether.

Lastly, email tattoo artists about costs. No matter how good you think a tattoo artist is, please don’t get ripped off. Communication is key here. I once emailed a tattoo artist who I won’t name, but said they would charge me £100 just for the deposit. Granted the tattoo would only be £80 so I’d get £20 back on the day, but still no thank you. That’s extortionate just for a deposit. Vincent has gone between charging me deposits and not charging me deposits depending on where she’s been working. But usually it’s around £20-50 for the deposit, which is included in the cost of the tattoo, as it is with most artists (or should be.) Tattoo artists will usually also charge you by the hour, so for example, my elephant took around an hour and a half and therefore cost £120. I’ve worked out Vincent charges roughly £75 an hour. I know this may seem complicated but it’s important you fully understand how much you are going to have to cough up on the day, especially if you can only pay by cash.

  • Preparation and getting inked (it does hurt).

Firstly, be sure that this is what you want before you book an appointment. I spent a few weeks humming and harring about sending that fateful first email. But I got there in the end, and those months leading up to the day made me realise that actually I did want an elephant enriched onto my arm for all eternity.

Secondly, tell your parents. Seriously, just tell them. There’s nothing they can do to stop you, and if your parents are anything like my lovely Mum is, they will accept that and respect your decision. If they don’t, then granted you may want to reconsider (depending on your age and the punishment you are likely to receive), but talk to them first and explain why you want the tattoo done, how you are going to pay for it and come to some understanding. Also, give them time to come to terms with it, no doubt they will ask their friends and family, and realise tattoos are not the devils mark they thought they were. After all, you have to be over 18 to get a tattoo, and that means you’re an adult who can make their own life decisions.

Thirdly, on the day you should probably take a friend. I usually take my friend Aimee, purely because she gets just as excited as I do. Don’t take someone who’s squeamish, would moan about waiting around for ages, or is a worrier that’ll make you even more scared or nervous. In addition to this, eat something. This is really important because if in the worst case scenario you faint, your tattoo artist isn’t going to finish on that day due to health and safety regulations. KEEP THOSE SUGAR LEVELS HIGH GURL. On a serious note, I was so nervous when I sat down with Rebecca for my elephant that she nearly didn’t tattoo me. Thankfully she was kind enough to talk it through with me, and made me take a few deep breaths, and that’s all it should take.

Lastly, it does hurt. Of course it does, there’s a needle going into your skin at rapid speed causing you to bleed. But the only way I can describe it is a dull stinging sensation and it really isn’t as bad as you think its going to be. Some places are more sensitive than others, and at times it can make you wince but the key is to just keep breathing. I find talking to your tattoo artist really does help through the process. I talk to Vincent about all sorts of shite, personal and otherwise. This has helped me form an almost a friendship with her and makes me feel much more relaxed. If you feel like you need a 5 minute break, you should always say, because it can get pretty fucking uncomfortable obviously. Above all, you should enjoy the experience, it certainly is that and I’ll never forget getting my first tattoo, or any of them really. How often do you get to sit and chat to a world class tattoo artist? It seriously does become great fun and is very therapeutic.

  • Aftercare and Aftermath.

After you’ve been tattooed you’ll be wrapped up in a gargantuan amount of cling film and strapped up with micropore tape. This is totally normal, as its to stop bacteria in the air getting into the open wound. The pain afterwards I can only describe as dreadful sunburn (it’ll feel hot and sore for the first few days.) Make sure you fully understand the self-care method your tattoo artist has provided you with on how to clean and care for your new tattoo. Usually this involves Sanex Zero shower gel 3-4 times a day, and some cocoa butter or Bepanthen cream to put on after. You should do this for around 2 weeks. Granted it is usually a massive pain in the anal cavity, but at the end of the day if your tattoo gets infected its not going to heal as nicely, and it means a trip to the doctor with some antibiotics thrown in.

Please be prepared for the amount of questions people are going to ask you, especially if you’re the first person to get a tattoo in your friendship group like I was. Also be prepared for the questions strangers will ask you, sometimes these can be negative. There is nothing worse than someone saying “oh cool tattoo, what does it mean?”, this will become the bane of your existence because half the time people don’t want to listen to the answer. My friends and family were and continue to be, very supportive of my tattoo adventures, which I am very thankful for. Of course there are always going to be people that make negative comments, such as my 86 year old grandmother, or people of an older generation. For example most of the time the elders will avoid sitting next to me on the bus, but do I care? Nope, more space for me motherfuckers. On a serious note, you shouldn’t take these comments or behaviours to heart, its a generational thing that will in 20 years be extinct.

At the end of the day, if people love you they will except you for who you are, regardless of what you choose or don’t choose to look like. Don’t dwell on the future. Of course its crossed my mind, as a worry, that I might not be employed due to the fact I have “visible tattoos”, but there are ways around this such as: Long sleeved blouses. Wow what an invention. Never knew they existed. In all seriousness life’s too short to not be who you want to be, and everyone experiences barriers because they actually make the decision to become that person. Not just people with tattoos.

If anyone asks you if you think you’ll regret having a tattoo, or tell you that you most definitely will regret it like they’re a fucking mind reader with a crystal ball, tell them to check themselves before they wreck themselves. You don’t need that negativity in your life. If I ever live to be 90 years old, I won’t be thinking about the tattoos, (I already don’t think about), on my arm. I’ll be thinking about my grandchildren, the fact i’ve peed myself, when I’m going to have my next cup of tea and a whole range of more important things than a tattoo which means literally nothing in the grand scheme of things.

Life’s too short to not have faith in yourself.

Seriously, just get that tattoo. Nobody gives a shit.

The Big Problems with Mobile Dating Apps, and why they’re Destroying Real-Life Relationships.

Let me ask you this; how many couples in your social circle met through an online dating app? Not that many I presume. In fact the majority of couples I know met the old fashioned way: In person, whether that be at a party, through a friend or in the pub.

I’ve wanted to talk about this subject for a long time, mainly because apps such as Tinder and Blendr have made me see a different view of dating, and honestly annoyed the shit out of me. Don’t get me wrong, I am guilty of using them just like every other single 20 year old, and as a matter of fact I have been on a couple of unsuccessful dates with guys I met on these said apps, (actual dates, not hookups). However I do honestly think there is a good reason why you’re never going to find a decent relationship on a dating app, and that’s because of expectations.

On a dating app anyone can promote themselves exactly as they want people to perceive them, which is usually very inaccurately. The most common way of doing this is lying about your height, your job, your smoking habits, your drinking habits, your interests. A guy could tell you he had a 10 inch club of a penis and you would be none the wiser until that fateful night, if you’re unlucky enough to ever get round to that. My point is when you meet someone electronically and get chatting, you’re likely to create an idealistic view of them which you’re attracted to rather than who they actually are. Moreover this is more likely to lead to you being disappointed when you meet them and realise they’re not that sexy, witty, Ryan Gosling lookalike you thought was going to take you on a trip to Paris, and then ravage your body with his 10 inch penis and Christian Grey skill and agility.

All this being said and done, I do appreciate the fact not everyone lies about themselves. Nevertheless, when you meet someone in person I think you’re more likely to know whether you have a genuine instant attraction to them. Thus this means you’re less likely to waste your time in getting to know them or taking it further. I once went on a date with a guy from Tinder who was okay…(I use okay demonstratively because frankly he didn’t blow me away). I spoke to him for about 3 weeks before this date, then two weeks after because I thought a second date might lease new light, and therefore create new possibilities. However it was all short lived and came to a crashing conclusion when he carelessly friend zoned me in the middle of a casual text conversation, (don’t men pick their moments). Anyway I can’t say I was heartbroken, but I did feel as if I had wasted my time and to be perfectly honest: I don’t have the time nor the patience for that.

I will admit to you now that I have very high expectations when it comes to men and dating. I’ve never settled for second best, and I do have to feel genuinely attracted to someone physically and emotionally before I let them anywhere near my vagina. However not all girls are like me, and many do feel like they have to sleep with a bloke in order to get his attention. To put it bluntly no matter how good you think you are at licking a guys balls, retrospectively you’re probably nothing he hasn’t had before. If a guy is that bothered about you not wanting to sleep with him straight away, he was probably only going to use you for a leg over anyway. I’ve only ever had a single one night stand, (which I didn’t think was going to be a one night stand), and it was shit: I was drunk and the whole affair still reminds me of a cocktail sausage (read into that what you will). Basically drunk sex is shit, and I still maintain the belief nothing good is going to come of you rushing into things with someone. Women should have more respect for themselves, and not feel pressurised into thinking sex is the answer to a man’s heart.

Another problem with dating apps is that they do make women feel as if they have to settle for second best, because of the quality of the men on there. I can honestly say I’ve never found a guy on a dating app that I’ve been really attracted to in all departments that matter most to me. Not to sound harsh but the majority of men on dating apps are desperate, and are the sort of guys who don’t have the skill nor the gumption to chat to women in real life situations. Personally I don’t think women should think the only men that are available are on dating apps, because they’re not and there are much nicer guys out there you can talk to face to face.

The irony of this all is that my last serious relationship was with someone I met online, however it wasn’t on a dating app it was on Facebook. Nevertheless I think it did teach me that even online there is an instant attraction you can have with someone, and that the majority of the time I’m just lying to myself about the connection I have with guys on dating apps. You may call that comparing, you may call that being too picky, but the fact of the matter is too often are women disappointed by guys who they weren’t really bothered about in the first place.

Dating apps are just smoke and mirrors. I hardly think that out of the 400 men on Blendr in my area I’m going to find my Prince Charming. Especially when all the guys who talk to you on there are probably talking to at least one other girl at the same time. In this day and age both sexes put too much pressure on themselves to find a partner, and to find their “soulmate” who they’re going to spend the rest of their lives with. Instead the reality of it is that firstly you shouldn’t base your life happiness on someone else, and secondly there is no such thing as perfection. Moreover technology is ruining our ability to find a meaningful relationship by almost making it too easy, giving us false projections, disappointing us, and making us hardened to real emotion.

If you’re looking for someone to blow you away dating apps are not the answer, and you need not download.